01.Aug.2007 Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris
Joshua Harris’s second book (first being I Kissed Dating Goodbye). Whereas IKDG talks about single life, Boy Meets Girl talks about the next phase, when you actually meet someone and pursue marriage through biblical courtship.
I don’t know why I read the book. I knew I wasn’t gonna follow whatever things he’s trying to teach. But I read it with open mind, just to see what messages he’s trying to pull. I can totally see why he sees and does things in certain ways. Of course some of them make sense, although a lot are not practical. Again, like my comments on his first book, all those can only be done when you’re in certain confined environment in ideal situation (good church family, holy friends, supportive Christian parents). For the rest of us, it almost sounds like a tale that happens in land far far away.
I was also put off by his specification of God given gender roles where guys need to lead or initiate, while girls are supposed to be.. waiting..? rescued..? Which century are we living in again? I mean I like the conservative male roles up to some degree. But to say that leading is a role for men ONLY? So no female leaders? Well, okay, in ideal world, where it’s full of rainbow and unicorns, men may use his leader role to totally make the women all happy and protected. Which reminds me of another thing that put me off. He was mentioning about how females are supposed to be taken care of and protected by dominant male character. It can be her father, brother, brother-in-law, husband (after marriage), etc. Yeah, right. It’s like Middle East country concept perfected. There you can’t buy bread without a male escorting. In his world, female can’t make decision without a male’s nod.
Nevermind me. I’m a bit on the (other) extreme end ;). You should read the book, even if you just want to know the say of a perfect Christian. I finished the book in 2 days. Quick read.
~Finished on 02 February 2007
Rating: 3 out of 5
Quotes
“When you know in your heart that you’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, forever can’t start soon enough.”